## The Gender Gap — Even in Online Dating

Women have it rough. The following is a typical — and valid — lament of most women:

I want to add to my income,
subtract from my weight,
divide and conquer,
and try like hell not to multiply.

As if it isn’t bad enough that the average female makes only 75.7% of her male counterpart (source). Now this.

According to OkTrends, the blog that provides dating research based on data from OkCupid.com, a profile about 130 words is fine for a man, but a woman will do better if she creates a profile that is closer to 800 words in length. And a woman should try to sound less intelligent — while there is no difference in the number of responses a man will get if his messages are written at a 4th-grade or 10th-grade level, the number of responses a woman gets will drop precipitously if her messages are written at a college level. What’s more, the analysts actually display the following advice for women:

If someone doesn’t think you’re hot, the next best thing for them to think is that you’re ugly.

The mathematics behind this statement is fascinating. The number of messages a woman receives can be estimated by the following formula:

M = 0.4m1 – .5m2 – .1m4 + .9m5 + k,

where M is the number of messages received, mn is the number of men who rated this woman n stars (on a scale of 1–5), and k is a constant.

Now take a look at that formula. The .9 coefficient for m5 implies that a woman will receive approximately one message for each five-star rating that she receives, but notice that the .4 coefficient for m1 implies that each one-star rating will also garner some messages. On the other hand, two- and four-star ratings actually decrease the number of messages she receives. (Since m3 is not included in the formula, three-star ratings apparently have little effect on the number of messages.)

Fascinating, no?

But a little game theory might help to explain this. Suppose you’re really diggin’ a woman’s profile, but most men give her a one-star rating. Well, that’s good news for you — it means less competition. On the other hand, a four-star rating may incorrectly imply that a woman is in high demand, so a typical guy — who thinks she’s cute (4 stars) but not hot (5 stars) — may not be willing to throw caution to the wind for a woman with whom he suspects he has little chance. (Sure, he may have even less chance with a five-star hottie, but it’s worth a try because she’s so hot!)

But, buck up, ladies. Despite all this depressing data, there is a silver lining: messages of just 50 words from a woman are most effective for soliciting a response from a guy, but a guy will have better luck with messages that are closer to 200 words in length. So, women may have to type more to create their profile, but at least they can type less when trying to make a connection.

All this objectication of women reminds me of a middle-aged mathematician I knew. When he walked into the house one afternoon, the following conversation occurred.

“I went to the doctor today, honey,” his wife said.

“Oh. How’d it go?” the mathematician asked.

“Well, he said that I have the spine of a 40-year-old,” she said.

“Oh,” he replied.

“And he said that I have the bones of a 30-year-old,” she continued.

“Hmm,” he replied again.

“And he said that I have the heart of a 20-year-old,” she said.

“Really?” asked the mathematician. He took all of this as unnecessary bragging, so finally he asked, “And did he say anything about your 55-year-old ass?”

“Actually, no,” she said. “Your name never came up.”

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